Strangely ingrained in the fabric of who we are as human beings is this thing called fear. But if you look a bit more deeply you’ll see that fear always flows out of a belief we’re having about ourselves or something outside us. Heather Vickery is a success coach who is incredibly insightful at helping people identify and conquer the fear that holds them back – and she does it by identifying limiting beliefs and disproving them in her client’s full view. It’s an amazing approach that makes so much sense – and it’s proven to be a game-changer for may of the people with whom she works. You’ll want to hear this episode with Heather, she’s an amazing woman.
What’s the worst thing that can happen? Next time you’re afraid, ask yourself that question.
If you want to conquer fear you’ve got to learn how to get outside the emotion of the situation and look at the facts. The reason that’s so important is because fear itself is an emotion, and it’s not necessarily based in reality at all. Heather Vickery says one of the classic ways to help yourself look past the fear to examine whether it’s valid is to ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that can happen?” The outcome you discover is not usually as bad as fear would have you believe and in most cases, it’s an entirely acceptable risk to take for the sake of conquering your fear. Please take some time to hear what Heather shares on this episode. She shares strategies to address fundamental things that could set you free.
Limiting beliefs are stories you tell yourself that keep you from succeeding.
None of us like to admit it, but we are often our own worst enemy. We tell ourselves stories about our ability, skill, experience, and capacity that keep us from even trying – when what we should do is silence those stories and try anyway. As Dane spoke with his guest Heather Vickery about how she helps her clients discover their limiting beliefs and start to move past them, she told the story of a woman whose life and career was transformed when she realized the lies she’d been telling herself for years. You won’t want to miss it.
Boundaries are the key that makes everything work together.
Heather Vickery is one of those people who’s able to see issues clearly and point out the things that nobody else notices. And what she notices when it comes to feelings of overwhelm, stress, and obligation is that healthy boundaries are often what is missing in the situation. In this conversation, Dane and Heather chat about why boundaries are important, what they enable you to accomplish in your life or work, and how to deal with the unintended impact your new boundaries might have on the people you deal with on a day to day basis. This part of the conversation is practical and powerful, so don’t miss it.
Is it acceptable to you to feel how you’re feeling? If not, change something.
The conversation recorded for this episode of Converge is one that comes full circle. Dane and Heather begin by talking about what it takes to conquer fear and wrap things up by addressing the emotional red flags that indicate something is wrong in our lives. Heather says that though we all go through the ups and downs of life, it’s not OK to stay in the downs. We have to decide what is acceptable to us in terms of how we feel, and if we’re not happy with the impact an emotional state has on our lives, it’s our responsibility to change it. It’s conquering fear from a different perspective. The insights Heather shares on this episode are the kind you won’t hear every day, which is a sad commentary on our society. But it’s also a statement about the value of this conversation. It’s worth sharing.
Outline of this great episode
- [0:22] The human state of perpetual fear – and why we all need help dealing with it.
- [1:42] Why Dan is so happy to have Heather on the show.
- [2:48] The unique way Heather guides conversations where someone has an idea but has not taken action yet.
- [5:34] Heather’s definition of limiting beliefs and why it’s important to deal with them.
- [9:33] Life-altering shifts Heather has seen in clients.
- [12:56] The healthy role boundaries play and why we need to establish them.
- [16:22] Setting up systems to enable you to stick to your boundaries.
- [19:20] Mitigating the unintended impact of setting your personal boundaries.
- [20:54] How Heather would advise a friend who’s questioning their life direction.
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